Recently, I found myself reflecting on some difficult people and situations in my life. I was feeling frustrated, tired, sad and angry. If you’ve lived long enough, you have encountered a person that makes your life miserable. I am sure you can remember the bully that loves to intimidate being loud or misusing their power. What about the jerk that is insensitive to how their actions affect everyone around them? You know the one I am talking about; you probably have someone in mind right now. Maybe it is your neighbor, boss or co-worker. Maybe it is a family member or even your Beloved significant other that drives you crazy being a pain to your lovely world. My world would be perfect if ________ would just change. (you fill in the blank)
Well, that kind of thinking was just taking me in circles. It was distracting, frustrating and stressful. Why? Waiting, hoping and praying for THEM to change will not change a thing. The only person I have any power to change is ME. I realized that I had to elevate my prospective. What is God’s plan for my life? And how did these people or situation fit in that plan?
I have had a few challenging experience in recent months and I sincerely wanted to be free. I sat in meditation contemplating on “what is the spiritual meaning of the difficult situations and people in my life today?” “What are they here for?” “What am I here to learn?”
I became aware that what I thought was my adversary was really a great teacher here to empower me to grow and expand. Each situation caused me get in touch with my feelings and to understand myself better. I would rather feel joyful, successful and appreciated. I would rather be considered and supported. I stood firm within myself that I mattered and became clear about what I deserve to be, do and have in my life. Believe me, this is a powerful stand to take and the beginning of positive change.
I looked at the skills that I had to develop. I needed more order and structure in my life. I needed more open, honest and authentic communication. I needed to set clearer and healthier boundaries.
I started clearing clutter from my home and my life. I began to releasing things and people that I have outgrown. I started making a place for the things I valued most. I started making my requirements and standards known. I value relationships and this means I had to open up space to have more quality time with my loved ones. I also gave more attention to forgiving myself and others.
The difficult challenging people in my life are here to develop qualities that helped to center me. They caused me to pray more and seek God’s wisdom. I started taking greater pleasure in the simple things that bring me such joy like walking in the park with my grand-babies. I noticed that every angry interaction caused me to be still and appreciate my quiet time and deep moments of contemplation. I envisioned a better life through my journals, vision boards and outcome mapping.
I enjoyed powerful life affirming conversations with my friends and my personal relationships deepened. I am not alone; I am fully supplied and supported. Look at all the wonderful loving people I enjoyed that are in my world. I am supported and appreciated. They care deeply and are sensitive to my needs and feelings. I have lots of evidence of this through their lovely notes, cards and emails of encouragement.
Difficult challenging situations and people are not given to us randomly. We moved here, we married him/her or we chose to work at that particular company. Even if we are born into a space of challenge, God had a plan. The wake-up call is that the Universe delivers the ideal adversary and the perfect storm to correspond to the places within us that requires the most healing so that we can deliver our gifts.
I bless every person or situation that challenges me to grow. I am here to develop the gifts that God has given me. I am here to refine my character and develop spiritually. I am here to contribute my unique talents and gifts to add light to the planet.
The true gift is when I realized that I have been transformed by every encounter and I am a better person because of it. It feels so much better to look at adversity and thank God for it. Take it on, learn the lesson and appreciate the blessing.
My desire it that this has helped you appreciate the challenges in your world. My style of coaching is to help you discover your gifts. Please leave a comment if this message has inspired you.
Love and Light,
Susan Lowe
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